Many of us grew up in households where our profound needs for love and safety were not met. We did not feel safe and loved in the face of disapproval, criticism, rejection, abandonment, smothering, engulfment, physical abuse, sexual abuse. We did not feel safe when there was yelling, fighting, violence, substance abuse.
We had to do something to feel safe. Some of us figured out that we could have some control over our parents' or other caregivers' behavior if we were really good, if we attempted to do everything right. We figured out that if we disconnected from ourselves, from our own feelings and stayed acutely tuned into the feelings of those around us, we could have some control over getting some approval and avoiding what we feared. We learned to feel a degree of safety by being a good girl, a good boy.
The problem is that, while we may have had some success with this strategy in our childhood homes, this same strategy is now causing our problems in our relationships at work and at home. When we disconnect from our own feelings, we become invisible to ourselves. Others end up treating us the way we treat ourselves, so we become invisible to others as well. As adults, we end up bringing about the very rejection we are trying to avoid, because we are rejecting ourselves.
I have had this same challenge. It was such a shock to me to discover years ago that, rather than being the loving person I thought I was, I was attempting to control how others felt about me by being "nice". By putting myself aside and doing what I thought others wanted me to do, and being what I thought others wanted me to be, I was trying to control getting love and approval and avoiding disapproval. The result was that I was anxious around others who were important to me, always fearing that I would say or do something wrong and experience the rejection I so feared.
When I finally realized that being loving meant being loving to myself as well as to others, I turned my eyes inward and started to practice becoming aware of my own feelings and needs. Instead of making others responsible for defining my worth and lovability through their approval, I took on the responsibility of defining my own worth and lovability. I developed a strong connection with a spiritual source of love and wisdom, which helped me to see the truth of who I really am. I learned to be an advocate for myself, seeing myself and speaking up for my own feelings and needs rather than making others responsible for seeing me.
I am no longer a "good girl" having to do everything right to please others and gain their approval. I am no longer "nice" as a form of manipulation. That's not to say that being loving to others is not a very high priority - it is. But now I include myself in the equation rather than expecting others to love me enough to feel safe, adequate, worthy and lovable.
Friday, July 29, 2005
Wednesday, July 27, 2005
coping with the loss of a love one....
i wish to dedicate this to a very very good friend for the loss that he ve experienced recently...having said that this poem is also for the people especially friends that i really care about and things that ve happened around these few days ve just make me realized that life is really so precious and as such i pray for all the well being of u all,health,happiness...etc..
A journey of love and compassion...
if skies were gray and clouds were white,
i ll be the stars brightly shining around the sides.
at times when u r in need,
and when u feel deeply not at peace,
its the same feeling i will feel n u r not alone in it.
the ups and downs of this journey we lead,
its all about being alive and being well,
as such nothing matters more than this.
when things do happen, a lesson is always learned,
its never easy to accept,yet,acceptance will be the turn to a healing process.
being a friend,i ve my limitations at times,
however at heart i pray for u at all times.
I wish i could help more in many ways at many times,
yet, being incapable of doing some things which limits my ability at that point.
i believe to be a true friend is to learn to understand,
to hold back when its not necessary, to step aside when its not my boundary,
but just to stay dere as a shoulder and to provide a ear.
most importantly a sincere heart n a clear conscience.
i wish i could do more, but i know some things i ve to leave u to face on ur own.
but no matter what i just want u to know, i ll be dere and thats a promise i ll give to u..
as such we dunno what ll happen tomorrow but i know that u ll always ve a place in my heart because u r people i cherished and i truely care about......:)
A journey of love and compassion...
if skies were gray and clouds were white,
i ll be the stars brightly shining around the sides.
at times when u r in need,
and when u feel deeply not at peace,
its the same feeling i will feel n u r not alone in it.
the ups and downs of this journey we lead,
its all about being alive and being well,
as such nothing matters more than this.
when things do happen, a lesson is always learned,
its never easy to accept,yet,acceptance will be the turn to a healing process.
being a friend,i ve my limitations at times,
however at heart i pray for u at all times.
I wish i could help more in many ways at many times,
yet, being incapable of doing some things which limits my ability at that point.
i believe to be a true friend is to learn to understand,
to hold back when its not necessary, to step aside when its not my boundary,
but just to stay dere as a shoulder and to provide a ear.
most importantly a sincere heart n a clear conscience.
i wish i could do more, but i know some things i ve to leave u to face on ur own.
but no matter what i just want u to know, i ll be dere and thats a promise i ll give to u..
as such we dunno what ll happen tomorrow but i know that u ll always ve a place in my heart because u r people i cherished and i truely care about......:)
Saturday, July 23, 2005
a nite in the jungle.....
it was a friday nite, having met up wif a good friend for dinner,then joined yoshie n gang for clubbing.We went to rum jungle ,my first time dere, despite the very long wait to get in really enjoyed the nite( being half drunk..hehe)...honestly when u guys leave i m so gonna be a nun...noone else to party with...anyways m looking forward to the next one before u really leave for states....meanwhiledets bout all...finals are just around the corner n i m wondering how m i gonna get through it....sigh..
Wednesday, July 20, 2005
What does a relationship takes...
How can you know if this is the right person with whom to spend your life? In this article, discover how to answer this question.
"How will I know when I meet the right person?"
I often hear this question in my counseling practice. The answer is fairly complex.
There are two different reasons that people have for wanting to get married:
To get love, validation, security and safety.
To share love and to grow emotionally and spiritually.
People who feel insecure and alone are likely to look for someone who will fill the inner emptiness and give them the love they are seeking. They want to find someone who will complete them and make them feel adequate and worthy. The problem is that no one can do this for another person - it is something we each need to learn to do for ourselves. Since we are always attracted to people who are at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health, a person looking to get love will attract a person also looking to get love. Each person hopes to get filled from the other, not realizing that each feels empty and really has nothing to give. Therefore, no one is the right person when the intent of getting married is to get love and security rather than to share love and learning.
Instead of asking the question, "Is this the right person for me?" why not ask, "Am I being the right person?" Am I being a person who comes to a relationship filled with love to share, or am I being a needy person hoping to get love and validation?
The main reason that many relationships don't work out is because each person is disappointed in not getting what they expected to get from the other person. But when a person does not know how to love and validate themselves and create an inner sense of safety and security, they certainly can't do this for another person. Yet this is what each person expects of the other. It's like trying to get water from a rock. What do you have to give when you feel empty within and want to get filled through another's love?
It is actually fairly easy to know if this is the right person for you when your intent in being in a relationship is to learn together and share love. A person who comes from a full place within finds it easy to discern when someone is empty inside, and will not be attracted to the empty person. A person who is truly open to learning about themselves, to growing emotionally and spiritually, to taking responsibility for their own feelings of safety and security, worth and lovability, will not be attracted to a person who is closed, controlling, and just wants to get love.
Knowing if this is the right person for you does not happen instantly. It takes months to discover whether or not a person is who they say they are. You cannot really know who a person is until you have conflict and find out what this person does in conflict. Some people can appear very open and loving until a conflict comes up and then they get angry, withdraw, resist or comply, closing down rather than staying open to learning about themselves and the other person. An important question is, how does this person deal with conflict and how long does it take them to open up if they do close in the face of conflict?
Since none of us enter relationships fully healed, it is very important to know that your partner is willing to explore conflict rather than just protect against it with controlling behavior. Conflict occurs in all relationships, and if both people are not open to learning about themselves and each other within the conflict, the unresolved conflicts will eventually destroy the relationship.
If you are a person who is open to learning and wants a relationship in order to share love, there are three essential ingredients that need to be present for the person to be the right person for you:
There needs to be a basic spark of attraction. If you do not feel physically attracted to this person within the first six months of the relationship, the chances are this attraction will not develop. It does not need to be instant, but it does need to be there at some point.
Both of you need to be capable of caring, compassion, and empathy - to be a giver rather than just a taker. If this person just wants what they want and doesn't care about what you want, they are not the right person for you. If you just want what you want and you don't care about what the other person wants or feels, you are not ready for a relationship.
Both people need to be open to learning in conflict rather than just wanting to win and be right. If both people are open to learning in conflict, conflicts will be resolved in loving ways, but power struggles will result if one or both of you are intent on controlling and winning.
Other ingredients, such as common interests and values, are also important, but without the above three ingredients, they will not sustain the relationship
"How will I know when I meet the right person?"
I often hear this question in my counseling practice. The answer is fairly complex.
There are two different reasons that people have for wanting to get married:
To get love, validation, security and safety.
To share love and to grow emotionally and spiritually.
People who feel insecure and alone are likely to look for someone who will fill the inner emptiness and give them the love they are seeking. They want to find someone who will complete them and make them feel adequate and worthy. The problem is that no one can do this for another person - it is something we each need to learn to do for ourselves. Since we are always attracted to people who are at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health, a person looking to get love will attract a person also looking to get love. Each person hopes to get filled from the other, not realizing that each feels empty and really has nothing to give. Therefore, no one is the right person when the intent of getting married is to get love and security rather than to share love and learning.
Instead of asking the question, "Is this the right person for me?" why not ask, "Am I being the right person?" Am I being a person who comes to a relationship filled with love to share, or am I being a needy person hoping to get love and validation?
The main reason that many relationships don't work out is because each person is disappointed in not getting what they expected to get from the other person. But when a person does not know how to love and validate themselves and create an inner sense of safety and security, they certainly can't do this for another person. Yet this is what each person expects of the other. It's like trying to get water from a rock. What do you have to give when you feel empty within and want to get filled through another's love?
It is actually fairly easy to know if this is the right person for you when your intent in being in a relationship is to learn together and share love. A person who comes from a full place within finds it easy to discern when someone is empty inside, and will not be attracted to the empty person. A person who is truly open to learning about themselves, to growing emotionally and spiritually, to taking responsibility for their own feelings of safety and security, worth and lovability, will not be attracted to a person who is closed, controlling, and just wants to get love.
Knowing if this is the right person for you does not happen instantly. It takes months to discover whether or not a person is who they say they are. You cannot really know who a person is until you have conflict and find out what this person does in conflict. Some people can appear very open and loving until a conflict comes up and then they get angry, withdraw, resist or comply, closing down rather than staying open to learning about themselves and the other person. An important question is, how does this person deal with conflict and how long does it take them to open up if they do close in the face of conflict?
Since none of us enter relationships fully healed, it is very important to know that your partner is willing to explore conflict rather than just protect against it with controlling behavior. Conflict occurs in all relationships, and if both people are not open to learning about themselves and each other within the conflict, the unresolved conflicts will eventually destroy the relationship.
If you are a person who is open to learning and wants a relationship in order to share love, there are three essential ingredients that need to be present for the person to be the right person for you:
There needs to be a basic spark of attraction. If you do not feel physically attracted to this person within the first six months of the relationship, the chances are this attraction will not develop. It does not need to be instant, but it does need to be there at some point.
Both of you need to be capable of caring, compassion, and empathy - to be a giver rather than just a taker. If this person just wants what they want and doesn't care about what you want, they are not the right person for you. If you just want what you want and you don't care about what the other person wants or feels, you are not ready for a relationship.
Both people need to be open to learning in conflict rather than just wanting to win and be right. If both people are open to learning in conflict, conflicts will be resolved in loving ways, but power struggles will result if one or both of you are intent on controlling and winning.
Other ingredients, such as common interests and values, are also important, but without the above three ingredients, they will not sustain the relationship
Monday, July 18, 2005
Healthy grief vs unhealthy grief...
We all know that it is in one's highest good to grieve the loss of a relationship. Yet grief is not always healing. Some people get stuck in their grief, locked into the past and unable to move forward in their lives. Learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy grief.
We all know that it is in one's highest good to grieve the loss of a relationship. Healthy grief releases feelings rather than allowing them to get stuck in the body.Healthy grief allows the griever to heal the loss and move on with life.
Yet grief is not always healing. Many of us have known people who were stuck in their grief, seemingly locked into the past and unable to move forward in their lives.
What is the difference between those who feel their grief and move on and those who get stuck in it? The difference lies in what they believe they have lost. When people believe they have lost their source of love, their grief will feel unending.
Gary had been in a three-year relationship with Samantha when Samantha decided to end the relationship. Gary was devastated. In this relationship, like in his past relationships, Gary was a taker - always trying to get love but unable to give love or share love. Samantha gave him a lot of love, but she often felt very lonely with him. Gary was devastated when she left because his source of love was gone. He was not grieving the loss of Samantha as a person he loved. He was grieving the loss of her love for him. He was grieving as a lost wounded child rather than as a loving adult.
As a result, Gary became stuck in his grief. He was stuck in feeling like a victim - stuck in "poor me." Gary had never done the inner work to develop an adult part of himself that could bring love to himself and share it with others. He felt lost, abandoned, and hurt. No matter how much he cried, no healing occurred. Because he was abandoning himself, he just continued to feel alone and despairing. Sometimes he was angry at Samantha for abandoning him and other times he was angry at himself for not being a better partner. He had many regrets that plagued him, and a constant inner refrain was, "If only I had..." "If only I had listened to her more, maybe she wouldn't have left." If only I had told her how beautiful she is, maybe she wouldn't have left."
Frank, on the other hand, was in deep grief over the death of his beloved wife, Beth. He had loved Beth with his whole heart and he missed her terribly. Yet Frank's grief was totally different than Gary's grief. Frank missed Beth's laugh. He missed her joy, her caring for people, her sense of wonder. He missed her as a person, and he missed being able to share his love with her. Frank had no regrets because he had not been a taker. He had loved Beth totally and was deeply grateful for the time he had with her. But Frank was actually fine. His grief came in waves, and he cried when it came. Then it washed through and he was fine again.
Frank was fine because Beth had not been the source of his sense of self. Frank had a strong loving inner adult who was connected with a spiritual source of love and wisdom. This was his Source, not Beth. Frank was a person who took full responsibility for his own pain and joy. He had never made Beth responsible for his feelings or his wellbeing. Because he had never abandoned himself, he could miss Beth and grieve for her without feeling abandoned, lost, victimized and alone.
Gary, on the other hand, was not fine, no matter how much sadness he released, because Samantha had been his Source of love, his Higher Power. He had handed to her the job of defining his sense of self, so when she left, all he could feel was abandoned. Gary had handed his Inner Child - his feeling self - to Samantha. He had made Samantha responsible for his feelings, so when she left, he felt like an abandoned child. His Source of love had gone away.
Because Frank knew how to love himself, he knew how to love others. Within a couple of years, Frank was in another loving relationship.
Gary found another relationship within six months of losing Samantha, and six months after that was again alone. Until Gary decides to learn to take responsibility for his own feelings and needs, he will likely continue to lose relationship after relationship, and continue to be stuck in feeling like a victim of the women in his life.
We all know that it is in one's highest good to grieve the loss of a relationship. Healthy grief releases feelings rather than allowing them to get stuck in the body.Healthy grief allows the griever to heal the loss and move on with life.
Yet grief is not always healing. Many of us have known people who were stuck in their grief, seemingly locked into the past and unable to move forward in their lives.
What is the difference between those who feel their grief and move on and those who get stuck in it? The difference lies in what they believe they have lost. When people believe they have lost their source of love, their grief will feel unending.
Gary had been in a three-year relationship with Samantha when Samantha decided to end the relationship. Gary was devastated. In this relationship, like in his past relationships, Gary was a taker - always trying to get love but unable to give love or share love. Samantha gave him a lot of love, but she often felt very lonely with him. Gary was devastated when she left because his source of love was gone. He was not grieving the loss of Samantha as a person he loved. He was grieving the loss of her love for him. He was grieving as a lost wounded child rather than as a loving adult.
As a result, Gary became stuck in his grief. He was stuck in feeling like a victim - stuck in "poor me." Gary had never done the inner work to develop an adult part of himself that could bring love to himself and share it with others. He felt lost, abandoned, and hurt. No matter how much he cried, no healing occurred. Because he was abandoning himself, he just continued to feel alone and despairing. Sometimes he was angry at Samantha for abandoning him and other times he was angry at himself for not being a better partner. He had many regrets that plagued him, and a constant inner refrain was, "If only I had..." "If only I had listened to her more, maybe she wouldn't have left." If only I had told her how beautiful she is, maybe she wouldn't have left."
Frank, on the other hand, was in deep grief over the death of his beloved wife, Beth. He had loved Beth with his whole heart and he missed her terribly. Yet Frank's grief was totally different than Gary's grief. Frank missed Beth's laugh. He missed her joy, her caring for people, her sense of wonder. He missed her as a person, and he missed being able to share his love with her. Frank had no regrets because he had not been a taker. He had loved Beth totally and was deeply grateful for the time he had with her. But Frank was actually fine. His grief came in waves, and he cried when it came. Then it washed through and he was fine again.
Frank was fine because Beth had not been the source of his sense of self. Frank had a strong loving inner adult who was connected with a spiritual source of love and wisdom. This was his Source, not Beth. Frank was a person who took full responsibility for his own pain and joy. He had never made Beth responsible for his feelings or his wellbeing. Because he had never abandoned himself, he could miss Beth and grieve for her without feeling abandoned, lost, victimized and alone.
Gary, on the other hand, was not fine, no matter how much sadness he released, because Samantha had been his Source of love, his Higher Power. He had handed to her the job of defining his sense of self, so when she left, all he could feel was abandoned. Gary had handed his Inner Child - his feeling self - to Samantha. He had made Samantha responsible for his feelings, so when she left, he felt like an abandoned child. His Source of love had gone away.
Because Frank knew how to love himself, he knew how to love others. Within a couple of years, Frank was in another loving relationship.
Gary found another relationship within six months of losing Samantha, and six months after that was again alone. Until Gary decides to learn to take responsibility for his own feelings and needs, he will likely continue to lose relationship after relationship, and continue to be stuck in feeling like a victim of the women in his life.
Sunday, July 17, 2005
a celebration for the death...
Its been a while since i last blogged..anyways the past three days had been a rather eye opener to me....my family had a celebration called "kong tet" ,its known as a celebration of the death done for many thousand years where in the taoism beliefs the purpose of conducting it is to ensure that our ancestors and following generations to come are throroughly blessed in health,good luck etc....
This was done consecutively for 3 days, despite being very reluctant to participate in the ritual...yet it was compulsory of me to do so as my family were involved with it...nevertheless it really open my eyes to a wider perspective of the chinese culture....this celebration was done in a very grand style, having spend over 60k just to burn a house and many many hell banknotes...goodness i think the notes are stacked to nearly 20 ft high....i am dead tired after having to go through all the prayers which were continuous non stop...anyways let me tell u what is this all about...just like in the movies ..my aunt did for my beloved uncle whom passed away from a freak accident,as in the chinese beliefs those who died this way will be send straight to hell....as such in this 3 days we help my uncle to pull him out of the 18 levels of hell n send him to heaven..
The rituals were more like a story where evry step n actions was done for a reason...like when we push the wheels around to get him out and when we finally burnt off the entire house consisting of 40 rooms for him as well as my ancestors to live in......the paper house was magnificent it was one of the best hse ever made and ordered in m'sia..specially shipped in from china..they took 3 weeks to build it...anyways at the end of the day i just hope that if this was true then i hope that my uncle can finally rest in peace, meanwhile may all the family be blessed.This is one of those events that i guess many wont even live to witness but i did...and thats just something rather eerie yet unbelievable.....really i should ve inform ripley's believe it all not to come film it..:P
will post some photos up once i get the cable to download my hp photos to the pc...
This was done consecutively for 3 days, despite being very reluctant to participate in the ritual...yet it was compulsory of me to do so as my family were involved with it...nevertheless it really open my eyes to a wider perspective of the chinese culture....this celebration was done in a very grand style, having spend over 60k just to burn a house and many many hell banknotes...goodness i think the notes are stacked to nearly 20 ft high....i am dead tired after having to go through all the prayers which were continuous non stop...anyways let me tell u what is this all about...just like in the movies ..my aunt did for my beloved uncle whom passed away from a freak accident,as in the chinese beliefs those who died this way will be send straight to hell....as such in this 3 days we help my uncle to pull him out of the 18 levels of hell n send him to heaven..
The rituals were more like a story where evry step n actions was done for a reason...like when we push the wheels around to get him out and when we finally burnt off the entire house consisting of 40 rooms for him as well as my ancestors to live in......the paper house was magnificent it was one of the best hse ever made and ordered in m'sia..specially shipped in from china..they took 3 weeks to build it...anyways at the end of the day i just hope that if this was true then i hope that my uncle can finally rest in peace, meanwhile may all the family be blessed.This is one of those events that i guess many wont even live to witness but i did...and thats just something rather eerie yet unbelievable.....really i should ve inform ripley's believe it all not to come film it..:P
will post some photos up once i get the cable to download my hp photos to the pc...
Sunday, July 10, 2005
thinking over...
its sunday...finally a rest day for the working ppl but for the students who ve exams every other week...its means day used to slave on studies...i m taking a break from it i ve such a bad flu its making me lethargic....anyways i just got off the phone wif steph...was so bz wif studies n yet no time to even find a good friend out for coffee....no worries ll make it up once i m on hols.....anyways..i din go to the gym today...i figure i prolly need a day for my body to rest....besides...i think i m overdoing it....
shtilar prolly i m getting addicted to it or so...must be ur influencelar woman!!! hehe:) anyways i still feel chubbish bcuz i cant seem to control my munching habits especially those chocolates n stressing from studies makes it even worse...sigh....i think i had better stop all this nonsense...
meanwhile watch a movie..ammityville definitely the best horror movie not to be missed..btw i lost the student rep campaign...but i m pretty happy bout it...cuz i dun think i m ready yet to take on student rep role in such a short time when i m now having trouble catching up back on the past studies i missed during the event..prolly i ll seriously go campaign next yr if i really want tolar...anyhow sorry for the dissapointment to those who voted for me...thanks for believing in me...i prolly ll have other chance to serve u meanwhile i had better get bak to my studieslar....
shtilar prolly i m getting addicted to it or so...must be ur influencelar woman!!! hehe:) anyways i still feel chubbish bcuz i cant seem to control my munching habits especially those chocolates n stressing from studies makes it even worse...sigh....i think i had better stop all this nonsense...
meanwhile watch a movie..ammityville definitely the best horror movie not to be missed..btw i lost the student rep campaign...but i m pretty happy bout it...cuz i dun think i m ready yet to take on student rep role in such a short time when i m now having trouble catching up back on the past studies i missed during the event..prolly i ll seriously go campaign next yr if i really want tolar...anyhow sorry for the dissapointment to those who voted for me...thanks for believing in me...i prolly ll have other chance to serve u meanwhile i had better get bak to my studieslar....
Saturday, July 09, 2005
maroon 5
Maroon 5 - If You Only Knew Lyrics
I wake up
Thoughts of you
Tattooed to my mind
As I wonder
What to wear
What to eat
Who to be
Will I see you again
And as my car breaks down
I shake my head and say
What a day
If you only knew
What I went through just
to get to you
I'm hanging from you
And I'll hold on if you
want me to
Every bus, every train,
Ever cab, every lane is
JAMMED
So I looked to the sky
And I reached for the
planes with my hands
If all my days go wrong
I'll think about last
night
It went right
If you only knew
What I went through just
to get to you
I'm hanging from you
And I'll hold on if you
want me to
If you only knew
What I went through just
to get to you
I'm swinging from you
And there's nothing I
would rather do
I wake up
Thoughts of you
Tattooed to my mind
As I wonder
What to wear
What to eat
Who to be
Will I see you again
And as my car breaks down
I shake my head and say
What a day
If you only knew
What I went through just
to get to you
I'm hanging from you
And I'll hold on if you
want me to
Every bus, every train,
Ever cab, every lane is
JAMMED
So I looked to the sky
And I reached for the
planes with my hands
If all my days go wrong
I'll think about last
night
It went right
If you only knew
What I went through just
to get to you
I'm hanging from you
And I'll hold on if you
want me to
If you only knew
What I went through just
to get to you
I'm swinging from you
And there's nothing I
would rather do
Tuesday, July 05, 2005
holy alphabets...
A lthough things are not perfect
Because of trial or pain
Continue in thanksgiving
Do not begin to blame
E ven when the times are hard
F ierce winds are bound to blow
G od is forever able
H old on to what you know
I magine life without His love
J oy would cease to be
Keep thanking Him for all the things
Love imparts to thee
M ove out of "Camp Complaining"
N o weapon that is known
O n earth can yield the power
P raise can do alone
Q uit looking at the future
R edeem the time at hand
S tart every day with worship
T o "thank" is a command
U ntil we see Him coming
V ictorious in the sky
W e'll run the race with gratitude
X alting God most high
Y es, there'll be good times and yes some will be bad, but...
Z ion waits in glory...where none are ever sad!
Because of trial or pain
Continue in thanksgiving
Do not begin to blame
E ven when the times are hard
F ierce winds are bound to blow
G od is forever able
H old on to what you know
I magine life without His love
J oy would cease to be
Keep thanking Him for all the things
Love imparts to thee
M ove out of "Camp Complaining"
N o weapon that is known
O n earth can yield the power
P raise can do alone
Q uit looking at the future
R edeem the time at hand
S tart every day with worship
T o "thank" is a command
U ntil we see Him coming
V ictorious in the sky
W e'll run the race with gratitude
X alting God most high
Y es, there'll be good times and yes some will be bad, but...
Z ion waits in glory...where none are ever sad!
Monday, July 04, 2005
if only....
memories are hard to erased,
by force or so it never goes.
it does so only when time tells it too,
or when its strong enough to turn away n forget about everything.
if only it was that easy to do,
if only this was perfectly untrue.
people make choices that they never seek to understand,
what matters most and what matters less,
it is always a wonder to understand whats the truth,
or lies and secrets they reveal...
in the end this is all that it can do,
to be dere for u and to be dere still.
even know it hurts it really do,
but being true is what it ll do....
by force or so it never goes.
it does so only when time tells it too,
or when its strong enough to turn away n forget about everything.
if only it was that easy to do,
if only this was perfectly untrue.
people make choices that they never seek to understand,
what matters most and what matters less,
it is always a wonder to understand whats the truth,
or lies and secrets they reveal...
in the end this is all that it can do,
to be dere for u and to be dere still.
even know it hurts it really do,
but being true is what it ll do....
Friday, July 01, 2005
genious reading...
I cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg.
The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid. Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at
Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer inwaht oredr the ltteers in a
wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be
in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed
it wouthit a porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey
lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Amzanig huh? Yaeh and I awlyas
thought slpeling was ipmorantt
The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid. Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at
Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer inwaht oredr the ltteers in a
wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be
in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed
it wouthit a porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey
lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Amzanig huh? Yaeh and I awlyas
thought slpeling was ipmorantt
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